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Question:
My wife and I are trying for a baby, but we do not want our families/freinds to know about it until my wife is several weeks pregnant. My wife is not drinking any alchole at the moment since we dont know if she is actually pregnant or not. So far not drinking hasnt caused any problems, but we are going to my sisters birthday tomorrow and if my wife stays t-total then people are going to start assuming she is pregnant and asking questions! Its been 2 weeks since we last made love and my wife is due on 2 days after my sisters birthday and I was wondering if it would be possible to detect a pregnancy before the date of the period? ...more importantly we would like to know if she is definately NOT pregnant. Obviously if she is pregnant she wont be drinking at all, but if we confirm that she definately isnt then she can drink and not worry. ...or are we just being stupid by not telling friends/family that we are trying?

Answer:
just re keeping the cover - your wife could always be the designated driver. or, have one glass, and only have sips of it. dont even finish it. swap with your glass when nobody is looking. or pretend she is on antibiotics and cant have alcohol... there's really no way to know that she's not pregnant that early. Some pregnancy tests are sensitive enough to detect a pregnancy that early, but if you get a negative, it could still be a false negative. If you get a positive, she's virtually certainly pregnant, but that early a negative can be inaccurate. On the other hand, a drink or two is not going to be a problem even if she is pregnant. I knew fairly quickly with my first child that I was pregnant..... I was about 2 1/2 weeks preganant when I found out. I was also very week and sick. Like others have said a drink or two will not hurt. Drink slowly and only have one or two. I think that saying you are on antibiotics and not supposed to drink is a great idea. I doubt if anyone will question it, you can say you had any type of infection ..... Everyone kows that you are not supposed to drink when you are on antibiotics so I doubt that the questions will come up. You could also say you just aren't in the mood for a drink..or that you are getting over a hang over from the other night and really can't stand the thought of any mixed drinks and just stick to water and pop or juice. I was hiding my pregnancy for a couple of months and during that time I had to attend several alcohol-related events because of my sister's wedding. I had one drink (wine, champagne, wine cooler) at each occasion and sipped from it all evening. That little bit of alcohol wouldn't cause harm. She doesn't even have to drink the whole thing. Unfortunately, there's no way you can confirm so early that she definitely isn't. A sensitive pregnancy test _may_ give you a positive this early on, but not always - so a negative test this early will definitely _not_ confirm that she's not pregnant. I think you'll just have to go for the suggestions other people have made about how best to hide the fact that she's not drinking.