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Question:
Help I'm so overwelmed, I just got a positive result and still can't quite accept that I'm pregnant again. I love having the baby but despise pregnancy, its sooo hard. I alomst got an iud, but put it off (I'll do it in December) now its too late. Someone out there with experience, please send guidance, Thanks Moe Mom to 9 mo old Aidan and 3 yr old Maxine

Answer:
Look at the bright side -- when you have this baby -- your 3 year old will be 4 -- and she can help. The 18 month old -- will still be quite young - and most likely won't give you as hard time as a 2.5 would! My kids aren't that close -- and you will have tough times -- but you will get through it -- and when they are older -- they will be close and it will be wonderful. My husband and I always joke -- we have gone from man to man defense to zone defense. One of the hardest thing for me is taking all 3 out by myself. I could handle two -- but three puts me over a bit -- and I rarely do it. Luckily my oldest is in school and I don't usually do it. But I have seen mom's who do it often. My girlfriends neighbor actually grocery shops with 5 kids under 6 -- I don't know how -- but she takes them all. I had only a 9 mo when I got pregnant a second time, and yes, it was hard! But now I've got a 4 yo, a 2 1/2 yo, and a 2 1/2 month old (so similar gaps to you, except the order reversed), and it is MUCH easier this time round. I found that by the time my second was about 16-17 months, she and her older sister would play pretty well together, and soon after that was when I got pregnant again (I remember joking to my doctor that life had gotten easy again and it was time for a new challenge!). Now they play together most of the time, and I have time to sort the baby out. I know it seems very daunting now, but Aidan is going to be a lot older and different by the time the new baby arrives, not the (presumably) fairly demanding baby he is now. I told my two girls straight away that I was pregnant again, and I would advise this - to Maxine at least, don't think it'll mean much to the baby! - especially if you find pregnancy hard-going: I should think it will be easier to explain to her why you're feeling tired and crappy if you can tell her it's because you're growing a baby, rather than just nonspecific mommy doesn't feel well for months. I also got pregnant when my first daughter was 9 months old. I was in a bad mood all the time because I had so much to keep up with being pregnant and breastfeeding, and because I also feel awful when I'm pregnant. As soon as my second daughter was born, I fell in love with her of course, I knew I would because I love babies but hate being pregnant. It's easier than I thought it would be because my older one, 22 months, adores her little sister, 5 months, although it's twice as hard to bundle them up in this freezing weather! It's very hard, no doubt, but you will definitely feel better once you've had the baby - unlike pregnancy, seeing toothless baby smiles and babbling help make up for having long, frustrating days, don't they? Just get as much rest as you can, you have an excuse to now! ;-) I'm an older mother and didn't have #1 until I was 35. We decided that we didn't need to wait to try to have #2 and I was pregnant with a nursing 10 month old. As it turned out, work sent Dh to Moscow for 5 weeks right after I found out. I was ill 24 hours a day and had a one year old. That was very, very difficult. #2 is now 10 months old and beautiful. Get family and friends to help as much as you can. Get a sitter just to take a nap if you have to! You must take care of yourself FIRST! One day at a time.