Tagged As: Weight Gain Pregnant
Question:
Do most women feel bad about weight gain in pregnancy as they would weight gain without being pregnant? I ask because I have become very defensive about my wife and her weight gain (about 8 pounds at 7 weeks from LMP). Her very petite sisters (obsessed with weight), are sorta cruel about it, saying she is too early to be gaining so much weight. I kinda told one of them to F**K off! They don't realize how much their comments hurt my wife. Is there anything to read up on regarding early pregnancy weight gain? How much have some of you experienced? I think healthy weight gain or lack thereof is important, but I am not sure what healthy is. I most certainly don't think my wife has gained too much.
Answer:
1. Good for you. If her sisters are bad now, they may get worse as she puts on more - carry on defending her (even if she *does* put on more than you expect). 2. I personally didn't really notice the actual weight gain (although by 12 weeks I know I'd put on 10lb, I'm not sure when it went on as Christmas fell in those 12 weeks!) but I wouldn't find 8lb alarming at this point. 3. Your wife's OB or midwife will give her advice if it's felt she's putting on too much, or too little. Everyone else's opinion is really kind of irrelevant (as you already know), and that includes a lot of books. What's right for one woman won't be for another, and you just have to go by common sense. Health (and lack of stress) is more important than what the scales say. I get the same *treatment* from some people because in their opinion, I haven't gained a lot of weight (6,6 lbs in 17+ weeks). As long as I know that my ob/gyn doesn't have a problem with it, I am not concerned. But I do understand how annoying such comments might be, and I congratulate you on defending your wife! So, if your wife's prenatal care provider is OK with your wife's pregnancy weight gain, you should not worry and pay much attention to the comments of other people! I fully agree that what is healthy for *her* is between your wife and her caregiver, *not* the rest of the world, so have no advice for you on that front, just one bit of anecdotal evidence that may help counter her sisters' insensitive comments. Is your wife petite as they are? If so, that may be why she's gaining early in her pregnancy. My sister is a woman without fat stores and she assured me when I thought *I* was gaining early that she gained a lot more weight than the books say you will early on; I kind of believe that she needed that fat build up in advance of the baby's growing. This is the same woman who came home from both deliveries and put her (pre-pregnancy, non-maternity) jeans on, and believe me, they were skinny jeans :-). Anyway, everyone is different; my point is simply that some people will gain early and it doesn't mean it's unhealthy or that they will go on to gain an unhealthy amount.
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